17 March 2009

"I'm hopelessly hopeful, you're just hopeless enough" -Fall Out Boy

Welcome back to another segment of "Good Music Makes You Homesick for A Place You've Never Been" ~ N. Wells

Hopeless - Dionne Farris from the movie Love Jones


"It's Been A Long Time...We Shouldn't Left You Without A Dope Beat to Step To" - Timbaland


So I guess I took a leave of absence from blogging. The last two weeks of the quarter were mad crazy! However, I think i handled them all pretty well. I think I clowned my finals even though I had them both on the same day back to back. I also found out that a whole case against me got dismissed...like just completely dismissed...which was AMAZING. Other Cool Things To Happen: I listened to The Dream's Love VS. Money and I love it...and can honestly say The Dream is one of my favorite artists...sometimes you have to see what an artists longevity is going to be because you don't want to get your hopes to be let down...but Love vs. Money is hot and getting me extra crunk for SPRRRRIIING. Which I am more than ready for. My Word of the Week will have to sum up the last two weeks a little bit more elegantly but for now this will have to do.

Peace&Much Love,
Jessalaine

04 March 2009

"It's like a house arrest in love..."

Venus is in retrograde for like the next six weeks. (sidenote: I don't get into horoscopes that much but I do get into them...if that makes sense...) Which means that it is a "time for romantic reruns and replays." Reading the article on what it Venus in retrograde mean made me a little salty but it was insightful. Insightful enough that I wanted to share it....

I.D.K....read the article though it's pretty cool. May explain why you've been feeling a certain way lately....It definitely did that with me.

"...I'd never fallen in love, though I'd stepped in it a few times..." - Rita Rudner

Click the quote for the article about Venus in retrograde. Holler.

Peace&MuchLove,
JessalaineJessalaine

"...Makes You Homesick for A Place You've Never Been..." N.Wells

"Good music makes you homesick for a place you've never been." N. Wells

This song is truly one of the songs that personify that quote. This song is so poetic and sweet to me. this song makes me feel all warm and ish on the inside.


I love this song

***Meet Noel Gourdin***"The River"


02 March 2009

"Young cat! If you keep your eyes open enough, Oh, the stuff you will learn! The most wonderful stuff!" - Dr. Seuss

Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss!!!!!!!!
"Nonsense wakes up the brain cells. And it helps develop a sense of humor, which is awfully important in this day and age. Humor has a tremendous place in this sordid world. It's more than just a matter of laughing. If you can see things out of whack, then you can see how things can be in whack." - Theodor Suess Geisel b.k.a Dr. Seuss

(Check out Google's salute to Mr. Seuss. ^ABOVE^)

Oh, The Places You'll Go!
by Dr. Seuss

Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And then things start to happen,
don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along.
You'll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on y our way up!
You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you'll be best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don't.
Because, sometimes, you won't.

I'm sorry to say so
but, sadly, it's true
that Bang-ups
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump,
you're not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or the waiting around for a Yes or No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying
You'll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be as famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't
Because, sometimes they won't.

I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul.
On you will go
though your enemies prowl.
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl.
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike,
And I know you'll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never foget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
You're off the Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!



01 March 2009

Word of the Week

Adamantine - adjective 1: made of or having the quality of adamant 2: rigidly firm: unyielding 3: resembling the diamond in hardness or luster

This week's word is brought to you by my analytical musings this past week. Have you ever had the feeling that people were just waiting for you to crack, break, and/or fall? And it's not to sound or look paranoid, like you're thinking that everyone is out to get you. The paranoid are mentally weak, so I'm talking to those that are strong mentally, or at least understand the perspective of the mentally strong.

It is so hard, I feel, for people to live in the world today...I only know the battles I face and the things I go through on the daily so I always imagine about what another person may be going through at the same given time. I think it's even harder to be not shaken from the foundation which you stand on comfortably in the world that we live in today. There is always some test or some individual testing you. I feel like I've grown so much from the things I've gone through in this extra short life of mine (22 precious years...) that I've noticed how much does not get to me. And the funniest thing to me is to watch people behave in a manner that they are expecting is going to have some effect on you. It's is pure entertainment and it brings a little joy to my heart when I notice the mess and allow it to not affect me because it shows that I'm truly at a place in my life where no matter how the water is flowing I remain steadfast 'like a tree planted by the rivers of water.' I don't think it was easy to get to that place and I think I have a little bit more to probably experience before I can securely say that that place is a permanent position for myself. There are definitely still things that shake me up, but they just fail to remove me completely from my foundation.

You have to learn how to apply appropriate 'weight' to the situations and people in your life. Because there are somethings and people who just shouldn't be given any sort of opportunity that they can affect your being. If they get that opportunity, you have to believe that they are going to make the most of it because it what feeds their self esteem and self worth. There are people in this world that only feel good because of the "failures" of the people around them and I think that is extremely sad. That's why, like Katt Williams said, "we have to be in tuned with our star player." You have to do whatever it takes to be unbreakable because there will always be someone in your life, most likely wearing the disguise of a 'friend,' waiting for someone to falter in order to feel better about their own life.

I think it's important to possess adamantine qualities because it's important for making your way through this thing called life. By showing that you are 'unbreakable' you help encourage another person to carry themselves in a similar manner. 'Life comes at you fast'....literally. The only way you will make it through when the winds of change are fiercely blowing is to be unyielding. Believe in yourself and your purpose...BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOUR PURPOSE. If you don't believe, you will have a hard time convincing and getting other people to believe. The ocean of life's waves will never cease their motions so the only thing you can do is grow to be strong enough to resist those waves. Some waves that you encounter in life aren't meant to do much but pass through/by you. Some people you meet in life aren't meant to do much but come in for a short period (when compared to the long run) and then leave just as swiftly as they came in. Which is why one needs to be strong and unmovable because those kinds of waves/people could come through and cause you to falter when all they were meant to do is pass through without any interruptions to your life. It's important to notice, recognize, and acknowledge these characters, or jokes as I commonly refer to them. Confrontation isn't always necessary. Don't let them take your shine, because at the end of the day the part they play in your overall purpose is minuscule. Anybody that plays a major role in the overall picture of your life acknowledges and respects the strength you have and do things that only help to grow that strength.

This world will get to you if you let it.

Be strong for yourself and everyone else past, present, and future that needs to see an individual like yourself be strong.

"And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper." Psalms 1:3

Peace&Much Love,
JessalaineJessalaine

It's AMAZING....

Watch This First! For Real, don't even read the post if you don't have the 8 minutes and 20 seconds it takes to go through this whole CLIP!!!!!

It's AMAZING how people still front on Kanye. There are people in this world that like Kanye West's music yet still fix their mouths to talk about they don't like how "cocky" he is. I feel that anybody that likes Kanye's music should like the individual that Kanye West is because I feel that he puts so much of himself out there on every single one of his albums. For real, go back and actually listen to the College Dropout and he basically introduces himself in an almost brutally honest kind of way. He called himself an asshole ("why you think me and Dame cool? we aaasssssholes" - "Get 'em High" ft Talib Kweli & Common) and even wraps about his love for the material things in "All Falls Down." I had a friend once tell me that "people tell you who they really are. we just don't listen." and that is so true. You love Kanye so allow yourself to be okay with someone that is confident enough with themselves that they can put themselves out there confidently. Quit Frontin' or using his confidence as a scapegoat for your own insecurity. I'm so over these Kanye Haters....Respect His Gangster. It's okay to love yourself and feel yourself...just don't believe your own hype.

But I wanted to write a post simply because I watched his episode of Storytellers on VH1 last night, and honestly I thoroughly enjoyed it. The "Amazing" segment was my favorite part, which is why I included in this post. He said he wanted to show us how he had grown through his music and he definitely did that. It was everything I needed to see...I effin' loved it and only wish that I could have been there to experience it live.

You know how damn near every kid has some musical artist that they grew up listening to because of their parents. I can promise and pretty damn near guarantee that for my children will come to know and love Kanye West at the tenderest of ages. Maybe his genius will inspire the genius in them.

THIS IS IMPORTANT: IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE STORYTELLERS EPISODE....IT IS TO YOUR BENEFIT TO WATCH IT AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE INSPIRED. It was AMAZING...but I do know how my opinion could seem biased...but if you don't watch it...it's your loss for reals. Click Here to watch the full show...or at least most of the show...hopefully it'll be on sale on iTunes

27 February 2009

"while the DJ sweatin' out all the problems and the troubles of the day" - Andre 3000 (OUTKAST)


Blame It ft. T-Pain - Jamie Foxx

Can't Help It. This is my song for the moment. It's one of those songs that you know gets everyone hyped up and dancing on those good clubbin' nights.

Here's another one to get you right....

Rockin That Thang - The-Dream

Anybody that's every seen Dazed and Confused knows the part where that guy is in the back of the car riding around talking about what he wants to do with the rest of his life after high school and he says "I just wanna DANCE!!!" I love that part and I feel him completely.

Oh and I love dancing by myself, but when there's a guy dancing with me and the DJ is on point, the guy's ON POINT and I'm on point (as usual...lol...at least I try to be and if I'm not...blame it on ah-ah-ah-ah-alcohol) then it's just theee BEST. I love music but music is a hundred times more enjoyable when I'm grooving to it.

Oh well, this was a random blurb. Hope you enjoyed it :)

Peace and <3
Jessalaine

26 February 2009

You'd Be Suprised To Know......

Note: This is another new reoccurring addition to my blog. Enjoy
Peace&MuchLove,
JessalaineJessalaine



--> That I consider Jay-Z an inspirational rapper.

His Unplugged album is the reason I prefer live bands for rap concerts,

Can't Knock The Hustle gets me crunk and ready for LIFE!
Why?
Cuz you Can't Knock the Hustle. Holler.


25 February 2009

Say What????

"I'd rather have a stable head on my shoulders than a so so situation on my arms"
-A.Thomas

Embrace the Martian - Kid Cudi


I suggest everyone get hip. Quickly. You can get his mixtape A Kid Named Cudi by clicking the link. But hey I'll go ahead and embed the ish right now so you can taste it before you love it. :)

Kid Cudi is that ISH! Like for reals. He's super duper cool.

Peace&MuchLove,
Jessalaine
"Is there any loove in this world? Is there any loovee in this wooorrrld?"

(Random but I was trying to post this freestyle he did but it didn't work. It was the whole reason for this post.)

RESEARCH: www.kidcudi.com = his website www.kidcudi.com/news = blog




Just So You Know: Man on the Moon = My favorite The Prayer is a close second, it's beautiful.
But I literally love this whole mixtape. Like I fucks with Kid Cudi. Pardon my language...but I.D.K how else to explain it.

23 February 2009

Musiq Soulchild Covering the Beatles

This is a major sidetrack from doing homework for me. However, I do not care since I have been looking at these statistics that this program spit out for at least an hour attempting to figure out how to interpret them.....anyways.....I was listening to Pandora while staring at the statistics and I heard this beautiful cover of one of my favorite Beatles songs...so beautiful that I think I like it better than the Beatles version..maybe. It was just so pretty and it made me want to go get in my bed and let it rock me to sleeeeeppp. Either way, enjoy.

Peace & Much Love
JessalaineJessalaine



Something - Musiq




22 February 2009

Homesickness brought to me by Good Music

"Good music makes you homesick for a place you've never been." -N. Wells


ANTHONY HAMILTON, "COMIN' FROM WHERE I'M FROM"



Word of The Week

Gratitude - (n) the state of being grateful: THANKFULNESS

This week's word is brought to you by the sheer annoyance draped over what would be a rather cheerful disposition.

One lesson that I have truly learned the hard way as a student here at The Ohio State University is that "Misery Loves Company." I can't think of how many times I've heard or had to be a part of conversations that were full of nothing but complaints. I feel like I actually was willingly an attendee of these pity parties until I realized exactly what was happening. During a conversation with my mama where I was breaking down a lot of the things that were going on around me during my Junior year, she said, "Jessalaine, the worst thing you can do for yourself is surround yourself with people that feel sorry for themselves." I definitely heard what she said but I definitely didn't change the group of people I was hanging around...at least not immediately. I consider myself to be a very caring individual and I want to help out anyone that I can and I feel that I attempt that more often than not. So I don't mind hearing about things that may be getting to people because maybe I can say some words of encouragement that will help them get past whatever is holding them down. However, what can you do when you start sounding like a broken record? I'm getting tired of running around the same territory (issues) in my own life, and I'm finding it hard to keep running around the same territory of those closest to me as well. There is no progress in that and as I mentioned in a previous post, right now I'm only concerned with PROGRESS.

Like I said, I used to be a consenting attendee of these complaining sessions. In some ways I think that I felt more relieved because at least I got to talk about what was weighing me down. But at the end of the night when I laid my head down there were no solutions, only those same problems that I had been speaking about moments earlier floating around my head. There was nothing proactive in these little pity parties that we were so comfortable in throwing for ourselves. I feel that is what held me back so much this past year and a half of my life. So once I realized what was going on....how I was so down about all the negative things flying around...I stopped and realized ALL THE GOOD that surrounded me too. I decided to put my energy into the beauty and the blessings in my life. That way when the negative pushed on me a little and maybe even knocked me down, I had put so much energy into the good & positive that the negative couldn't keep me down long and I could get back up and start working on changing the negative to positives...I could get past whatever was hurting me because I saw all the things around me and in my life that brought a smile to my face and encouraged me to keep it moving because there are more good things down your path.

Everything I'm grateful for, makes me want to cry because I am that GRATEFUL. I'm even grateful for all the great things that have already been preordained as mine but I have not been allowed to see yet. I don't think a 'weight' should be assigned to individuals problems. But I do know that in the last three months alone, I have gone through some stuff I never would imagine that I would have to go through. I got arrested and I'm even facing a trial date now because they want me to plead to an act I know I did not commit. This has been hanging over my head since the weekend before Christmas...literally hanging over my head, but I feel that I have not yet allowed it to break me. I don't even give that situation the energy it wants because I know that GOD has brought me THIS FAR in life, through trials and tribulations and many blessings, and He isn't about to leave me now. Throughout all of this crap coming at me...I'm still so grateful and happy to be alive and happy that I'm making moves to change the situations of those I love the most.

We waste so much of our life being miserable and we are the only ones making ourselves miserable because we have the ultimate power to remove ourselves from these situations that cause us strife. So many less than desirable situations came my way this week alone, but I didn't have to complain to anyone because every day I was reminded of the beauty that surrounded me and the great things that were in my life. I'm so grateful for the things I'm grateful for because they give me an opportunity to reside in a place of joy. I think when you find yourself getting down about a specific situation or situations, you should literally hit your brain's pause button and start counting all the things and reasons you have to be grateful. If you need help, let the number one thing you're grateful for be that you were able to wake up that morning with full use of your body's capabilities...because some people don't get that luxury morning after morning. Let it flow from there.

Let's make a commitment to be more grateful, because things could always be worse. Show some gratitude to the life that you have been given. Because in the blink of any eye that life could be gone. Show gratitude to the people, places, and things that your are thankful for...because they could be gone one day too.

It's cool to talk about the things that are getting to you with your friends because that is one of the things friends are for. You feel relief once you've shared what you're going through with someone that will understand you. However, only solutions and productive advice should be the result of those kinds of conversations. However, if your friends aren't helping you overcome the situations you are bringing to them by being proactive and giving productive advice...then you probably should look into changing the friend or friends you go to with problems.

When people are shown appreciation (gratitude) they feel great about themselves or what they have done. So allow yourself to feel great and show yourself some gratitude.


Let's use our lives more wisely :)

Be Thankful,
Much Love,
Jessalaine



21 February 2009

"Lauryn Hill Said Her Heart was in Zion......." - Kanye West

"...I wish her heart still was in rhymin." - Kanye West

"Word." - ME!

Peace and Much Love,
JessalaineJessalaine

(SIDENOTE: I have a theory that every real female has an "ex-factor" type love at least ONCE in her life. It makes one stronger.)



17 February 2009

"I hope You're more like ANITA BAKER than Robin Givens" - Andre 3000

"Good Music makes your homesick for a place you've never been." N. Wells

I must say that Anita Baker is one of the most powerful singers among the singers that I enjoy. All of her songs remind me of the evenings my mom had to pick me up from high school because of one thing or another that I was involved in. They always played her music during "the quiet storm" portion that the smooth jazz and r&b station played. The memory is like characterized by feeling chilly but warm because of the heat coming from the vents in the car. I think that is a perfect feeling for Anita Baker, because her music truly does make you feel warm on the inside.

Here ya go! Enjoy! REALLY...ENJOY THIS! It's a live performance!

"Free Yourself From Mental Slavery" Bob Marley

Have you ever had one of the moments where you did something and the moment after you were just able to breathe a little better?? I just had one of the moments and it came from me deactivating my Facebook account. I feel like it was just something that honestly helped strengthen all the chains and things binding up my thoughts. I used this metaphor to describe why I wanted to remove some people from my friends list but in the end it helped me justify to myself why there was no time like the present to let go of facebook...here it is: "If a crack addict was trying to stop using crack and free themselves from their addiction, would they throw away all the drugs and disconnect from all their dealers but keep the crack pipe?" Facebook was my 'crack pipe.' It was the tool I used to feed my addiction(s) and now that I have officially thrown away my 'crack pipe' I feel like I can truly move on from everything that I was trying so hard to just keep myself and my thoughts away from.

I just think it's important that we do free ourselves from those things that just seem to engulf us..those things that we feel are, or have determined to be, negative. I am my own worst critic and you wouldn't believe the things I beat myself up over. Instead of just walking away and learning from my mistakes, I just revisit the situations in my mind and beat myself up a little better than the time before. There is no progress in that and at this point in my life I'm interested only in PROGRESS. I'm desperate to move on past undergraduate and get into the world and start putting things into motion that will help me fulfill my overall purpose on this earth. It's good that I self-evaluate but I shouldn't beat myself up. I should self-evaluate for learning purposes only because re-evaluation doesn't get you anywhere closer back to the point in time your evaluating...it doesn't get you any closer to changing what has already occurred.

When your mind is being enslaved it adds a weight that you don't need added to the load you are already carrying. You can have an open mind but if there are chains hanging from your mind, you are bound to get caught up on something. So it just holds you up as you walk along your path. It's unnecessary and once you take the action to free your mind, the effect of that freedom is almost immediate. It's literally like you can just breathe a little bit easier. I find joy knowing that I will be breathing a little bit easier tonight when I lay my head down. My Facebook just became something that I would never intended for it to be, so even though I was able to keep in touch with my close friends because I'm not a big talker on the phone, it still had parts that kept my mind stuck in the prison that I was allowing it to sit in.

I just think it was a step in a good direction. I don't miss it. I wonder if I start to but either way I know that it was definitely a step in the right direction.

Really..."FREE YOURSELF FROM MENTAL SLAVERY, NONE BUT OURSELVES CAN FREE OUR MINDS!" -BOB MARLEY ....He was really onto something...he was onto a lot of things in my opinion and you can learn more than a few truths from the man.

Peace and Much Love,
Jessalaine

15 February 2009

"Good Music Makes You Homesick for a Place You've Never Been" --N. Wells

NOTE: I'm adding new reoccurring features to my blog. Here is one of them. You'll know which reoccur by the reoccurring titles, or variations of the same title.

Peace&Much Love,
Jessalaine

Raphael Saadiq
"Sometimes" from album The Way I See It


Word of The Week

Note: This is another reoccurring part of my blog. It should be posted at some point during the week that the word is for. However, this first one is being posted on the Sunday following the week the word is for. (Hopefully that made sense to you.)

WORD of THE WEEK:
NEGLIGENCE -
(n) 1 a: the quality or state of being negligent b: the failure to exercise the care that a reasonably prudent person would exercise in like circumstances
2: an act or instance of being negligent

"There are no repercussions for their negligent lifestyle." - D.L.

My word for this week is NEGLIGENCE. Basically because I spent a lot of time discussing and observing the negligence that seems to be all over our world these days. I'm by no means intending to judge any of the characters or situations that I may mention in this post because I have experienced many things it seems as a fault of my own negligence. That said I think everyone is negligent or has been negligent more times than we all like to admit. It takes a pretty conscious effort to not be negligent and one definitely has to be "in tune with their star player."
...ALL I KNOW IS... that nothing good ever comes from being negligent. For example, my own negligence landed me in an emergency room in so much pain. And I am the one that will ride out each and every one of my sicknesses so for me to have to go to the emergency room was a low point. The repercussions for my negligence even extended past the point when they released me because I had a serious come down off the drugs they gave me while I was in there as well as a arm that was EXTRA sore from the part of the visit that the nurse tried unsuccessfully to find a vein in my arm for an IV. No one was responsible for my 'ailments' but my own self not taking care of myself. All is well now but it really just sucked. However, I encounter people all the time that have less than desirable effects from their negligent behavior and instead of holding their own negligence responsible they find the need to fault everyone or everything else. I guess that only irritates me because one of my pet peeves is someone's irresponsibility that affects other individuals. And more often than not a person's negligence has some direct and/or indirect effects on a person or people. Sometimes we can see these effects and sometimes we can't, either way it is still so easy to walk away from or keeping walking past our negligent behavior...is it because we just don't care? It just baffles me.

Negligent behavior costs. It costs people money, health, happiness...the list could go on... And to scare those that don't get my point just yet, Sexually Transmitted Diseases are a result of what? Negligent behavior on both sides of the equation.

When you engage in negligent behavior or decisions you should at least be responsible enough to cop to your own negligent behavior and not use a scapegoat or other lame excuse. Negligence is not an excuse for any behavior or choices. However, responsibility could probably cover all negligence. If someone was to take responsibility for their own actions then whether they were being negligent or not doesn't really matter, it could all be chopped up to a person making a bad decision which we all make at one point or another in life.

Here's an example: Supposedly Ray J got one of his "For the Love of Ray J" contestants, Danger, preggers. This is not only bad for Ray J ("better choose the right one, or pick, pick the kiddies up" - international players anthem, UGK & Outkast) but let's think about the child that will have to grow up knowing that he is a product of a reality show. And not just any reality show, but one of the wildest ones ever to come to television. He's going to have to see the show at some point in life. I wonder what that is going to do to the child's psyche. I mean he may fill that he has to be promiscuous like because that is what he clearly came from or he may be really embarrassed and develop all sorts of issues that will have lasting effects on his life and love. And the only repercussion that may come from this negligent decision is either Ray J dropping dollar dollar bills for child support which may not be an issue for him because he's famous and probably can drop that cash without too much resentment.

IDK....I just think that we as a society can be more careful and conscious about the decisions that we make. The effects aren't always immediate and sometimes they are lasting when we chose to do things that aren't among our better options. I had a teacher in high school that dismissed us with the phrase, "Make good decisions." Let's make better decisions people. We could all make an effort to acknowledge and be aware of the possible consequences that specific decisions will bring about. I think it would better society in the long run.

Let's just do better. I mean, why not?



I hope this post made some kind of sense...my brain is all over the place because of my present circumstance (to be the inspiration of some post to come I'm sure....). Either way I hope you enjoyed my first Word of the Week...I'm thinking they'll probably only get better so Stay Tuned :)

Much Love,
J.E